Thursday, August 22, 2013

Going in Blind

Have you ever been to a horse track...watched "Seabiscuit"? So you know what these are used for! No? Wikipedia says:

Many racehorse trainers believe these keep the horse focused on what is in front of him, encouraging him to pay attention to the race rather than other distractions, such as crowds. Additionally, blinkers (then usually known as winkers) are commonly seen on driving horses, to keep them from being distracted or spooked, especially on crowded city streets.

Gotta love Wiki- It adds: 

The term, in both "blinker" and "blinder" form is also used metaphorically to refer to people with an overly narrow focus or inability to see the larger picture.

The journey to finding a DAD is never a "race" you don't want to do it quickly- you want to not only take your time, but find the right FIT FOR YOUR family!

How DO you start your research?

1. Online AND IN PERSON. 1a. There's too much at stake to do otherwise. 

2. Get your current friends and family involved. Share your ideas with them! They know you best...

3. Remember- not everything is at it appears (refer to #1)

 (Notre Dame player duped by catfishing...)

4. Keep an open mind when networking and talk to EVERYONE!

5. Remember: Good things come to those who wait. (refer to 1a.)

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6. The DAD community is small enough (yes, still). So while it's super vulnerable to be YOU right now, be careful not to land in a place where it seems like this:

Remember your goals and stay true to who you are and your families' needs through the whole process. 
Would you hire the first painter who quotes you? Get more quotes, then make your decision!
It is VERY hard to seek out help and not want to get involved with the first place that offers it.

If you must... put your OWN BLINDERS on and (as copied above: with words changed in black)
...focus on what is in front of you, encouraging you to pay attention to this process and being smart while involved in it, rather than loosing focus to other distractions.  Additionally, blinkers (then usually known as winkers) are commonly seen on driven parents of T1's, to keep them from being distracted or duped. SO BE SLOW, BE SMART, and GOOD LUCK!

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